Pull Yourself Out of the Post-Grad Blues

 

By Sunanda Rajput

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A few years ago I graduated from university and what I expected to happen vs. what actually happened were two very different things. You go to university with the great expectation that once you have that magic piece of paper as a graduate, job offers will be flying through the roof! Oh, how very naive I was! Honestly speaking, once you graduate the conquering is not over. I had it all figured out (or so I thought), but life has a funny way of giving you the finger just when you think you have it all sussed out.

I am British Indian, and I grew up in a small area in Bolton, but the ambition and drive was sky high. So how did this affect me? As a child I had a low self-esteem, always the quiet and shy girl and despite me doing and achieving great things in my adult life, I really struggled in knowing my worth.

After university, I had proven my worth in the workplace, while at the same time not really knowing what direction I was headed. I felt stressed, worried, apprehensive, overwhelmed, sad, and finances were not as I hoped. And others around me seemed to have it figured out. This really brought my mood down for a long time until I began to realise that the only competition I have is myself. I began to look at myself differently. I began to like my own company more than that of anyone else, and most importantly I made a commitment to love myself for better or worse. I learned how to love the excitement of the unknown.

Yes, it can be disheartening when you don't get that job you wanted but I now want to pass on this message to other students not to place too much pressure on themselves. Enjoy the ride and you’ll surprise yourself with just what exactly you can do! I am now a trained coach for students to give them a little nudge in the right direction.

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